“Never give up on someone you can’t go a day without thinking about.”
Maybe your brain is perfectly healthy and never betrays you, but that hasn’t been my experience. Sometimes my brain is really stupid and gives me thoughts like “Hey, you could totally just…turn the wheel and run your car into oncoming traffic. Wouldn’t that be cool?” Then I have to shake my head and say, “Brain, we talked about this: that would NOT be cool; that would be deadly and it would hurt people and, besides, what would become of Layla?”
Sometimes my brain says things like, “Everything is pointless and life sucks and you should really just stay in this bed forever. Why bother doing anything else?” And I have to remind it: “Okay, but tomorrow you’re going to want to eat and buy shoes and so I have to get up and go make money in order to make that happen.”
Your brain offers you thoughts and you get to choose what you do with them. (…usually, I should say. Mental illness is a different issue and doesn’t always allow you to do that.)
The same is true of people. You hear a song and your brain says, “Hey, you know who that reminds me of?” Or you’re all by yourself, watching TV, and it suddenly tells you to invite that person over. Or they just pop up into your head. That doesn’t mean they’re “meant for you.” It means you’ve spent a lot of time thinking about them thus far and it’s a habit you may need to break. It doesn’t mean you can’t give up on them.
What it should say is this:
Never give up on someone who makes you happy the majority of the time. Never give up on someone who treats you well and makes you feel safe. Never give up on someone who has proven they want to be with you and makes a concentrated effort to spend time with you.
Never give up on somebody who has proven they won’t give up on you.